Motherhood: Sustaining Joy

As we all know, being a mom can have its ups and downs, and some days its a struggle to remember who we were before motherhood.  The key to maintaining joy as a parent has nothing to do with our children, and more to do with ourselves. I know this sounds cliché, but it's the truth.  

Here are some things I do to maintain my joy outside of being a mom (and wife):

Get a hobby

A hobby is an activity or interest pursued for pleasure or relaxation so it can be anything that brings you joy. My hobbies include running, blogging, wine & champagne tasting and listening to podcasts.

Ask for Help

As a stay-at-home mom, I used to think I did not deserve to get time off, but I soon realized this was not healthy.  I now know my when my breaking point is looming, and I will let my husband know I need help.  

Get Healthy

I make an effort to eat nutritious food and exercise daily.  On the days when I've skipped on the gym or my morning run, I try not to give myself a hard time.  I move onto my next goal which is to accomplish my 10,000 daily steps. 

Plan Me Time

I plan my me time because otherwise weekends come and go, and next thing you know I am feeling a little crazy.  Planning ahead lessens my mom guilt. Plus, it helps my husband know ahead of time, and he can plan to do something fun with Luna. 

I would love to hear what you do to sustain your joy.    

Mindful Monday: Mamas & Taking Me Time

I hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day. This was my third Mother's Day and I have a bit more perspective, and even though I have yet to perfect slowing down and remembering to take me time, I am getting there.  

As a mother, like most, I have a difficult time putting myself first. Even when my husband tells me to take more time for myself and he reassures me in every way possible that it is okay, I still do not put myself first. To be honest, I really love hanging out with my husband and daughter, but I will admit there are times I feel a little nutty and full of knots in my neck and shoulders! 

If you haven't taken time lately to do something for yourself--DO IT! I realize it is easier said than done, but once you get over the logistics, take a little time to take care of You. 

For Valentine's Day my husband gave me a gift certificate to my favorite local spa, The Spa Simply Skin, and they did not disappoint as always! I am not the type that can easily relax or fall asleep, therefore, when my massage was over and I thought to myself "was I asleep?" and I felt like I could cry from the pure joy of relaxation--well, I obviously waited too long to take care of myself. Lesson learned.

It is worth investing in whatever relaxes you. It does not have to be a trip to the spa (though it doesn't hurt), the main point of taking time for yourself is to be present and really relax so afterwards you feel like you hit that reset button. You will thank me later!